"He will turn the hearts of the fathers to their children, and the hearts of the children to their fathers”- Malachi 4:6 (NIV)
There was a recent story running in one of the leading Uganda dailies about “200 fathers who had defiled” their own daughters! This sobering news was already much known to those who are involved in running abortion rescue shelters, like Wakisa Ministries. After the lock-down they saw a steep rise in number of teenage pregnancy traced to “fathers” defiling their daughters.
Some of us might be curious how we got here. Of course there is the sinful nature of man manifested in such wickedness. As scripture says, “"The human heart is the most deceitful of all things, and desperately wicked. Who really knows how bad it is?” (Jeremiah 17:9). Aside, there is also socialization.
Many have observed that while mothers are mentored in their roles right from childhood, rarely are boys! Though mothers habitually sit with their daughters and share on living up to their expected roles once in a home, boys just grow into being fathers, having picked much of all they know from the boisterous play yard.
Then there is the case of boys who grow up in single homes, whose numbers is ever increasing. These have been denied the chance of seeing a father-figure, they can learn from. At times though even with the presence of a father in a home, the relationship is often abusive, without any love or care, much filled with violence.
It is therefore safe to assume that a great many boys have just stepped into fatherhood with the worst experiences, which they bring to a home, and soon exhibit in the worst excess, including incest as we have seen!
The role of a father in a home is first and foremost of a priest. Before David was king to a nation he was head of his household, making sure he blesses them (2 Samuel 6:20). Many of us are not aware of these priestly roles, stopping at only providing, if at all, without embracing the role of leading a house in the fear of God. And just as mothers sit down with their girls to mentor them into proper roles, perhaps it’s about time, Christian fathers habitually sit down with their sons to mentor them in what fatherhood is all about!
Prayer for today: Lord Farther God, maker of heaven and earth, how I thank you for fatherhood as we see in the life of your earthly father Joseph, who led his household with love, care and fear of God, and may we learn from such to grow the next generation of fathers worthy of emulation, this I pray in Jesus’s name!
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“Who dares despise the day of small things, since the seven eyes of the Lord that range throughout the earth will rejoice when they see the chosen capstone in the hand of Zerubbabel” ( Zechariah 4:10).
The public life of King David is well known. However, there is an early aspect of his life quite hidden though we can get glimpse of it. The first time we get to know David he is a stay home kid while his big brothers are on to bigger stuff, like fighting with King Saul. “Jesse’s three oldest sons had followed Saul to the war: The firstborn was Eliab; the second, Abinadab; and the third, Shammah. David was the youngest. The three oldest followed Saul, but David went back and forth from Saul to tend his father’s sheep at Bethlehem” ( I Samuel 27:13-14).
Left home alone perhaps it was a time for David to bond with the old man Jesse. Maybe he sometimes felt idle and ignored. But there was something maturing in his life for the life ahead. For in the meantime as he would later point to King Saul once an opportunity availed itself, God was ironing out his CV. When he offered to take on Goliath and Saul hesitated, he quickly shot back: “Your servant has been keeping his father’s sheep. When a lion or a bear came and carried off a sheep from the flock, I went after it, struck it and rescued the sheep from its mouth. When it turned on me, I seized it by its hair, struck it and killed it. Your servant has killed both the lion and the bear; this uncircumcised Philistine will be like one of them, because he has defied the armies of the living God. The Lord who rescued me from the paw of the lion and the paw of the bear will rescue me from the hand of this Philistine” (vv 35-37).
That’s the point. What had apparent been idle moments God was preparing David for the battles ahead? He would not only emerge out of the shadow as a great warrior but also a shepherd of his people ever relying on God.
Equally so, for all of us, there are moments that might appear idle and we feel frustrated as we see the days go by. Yet, in His gentle ways, God is preparing us for great days ahead.
Prayer today: Lord Father God, maker of heaven and earth, for those periods in life of apparent inactivity and maybe trials, help me appreciate them as the maturing me, for in due time and season all will bear fruit, this I pray in Jesus’ name!